It’s been a long time since I have written. I get ‘couchbound’ where I can’t do anything. It’s where I am right now.
I have so many things to take care of. My ‘free Canadian health care’ gets less free when you neglect to file your taxes. My provincial MSP plan is on my back for payment. I need to file my taxes before I call them or I can’t go see a doctor. Not filing taxes or calling MSP back will affect me negatively but I haven’t been able to do either. I made some small steps like loooking up paper work and phone numbers to get it all together. I can’t gather the motivation? initiative? gumption? to make the call.
Other things to take care of? Well, personal hygiene would be good. Watering my plants which are footsteps from my house might be nice because watching them die from my couch isn’t. Cleaning my personal space.
The fact it is so difficult for me to accomplish even doing my dishes? Is embarrassing. I SHOULD feel shame.
However? When my BF comes home after a long day of work and sees I am still in my PJs on the couch? He doesn’t shame me.
He recognizes any effort I have made (like packing him a lunch that day or washing some of the dishes).
And when I get so far gone I can’t take care of my own hygiene? He doesn’t even shame me then. He offers to run be a bubble bath. Like I’m the one that had a hard day, not him.
Those kindnesses he gives me takes away the shame of what I go through when I struggle every day. Because of him I survive better. There were times in my life I was bedbound from my mental health. Now I am couchbound but with encouragement not shame.
How do I take this new feeling of being unashamed about my lack of inclination and use it as a catalyst to incite motivation?